{"id":388,"date":"2021-02-02T15:04:00","date_gmt":"2021-02-02T23:04:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/?p=388"},"modified":"2021-06-10T14:07:24","modified_gmt":"2021-06-10T21:07:24","slug":"6-easy-and-maybe-sneaky-ways-to-get-alone-time-when-you-live-with-a-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/6-easy-and-maybe-sneaky-ways-to-get-alone-time-when-you-live-with-a-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"6 easy (and maybe sneaky?) ways to get alone time when you live with a partner"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Firstly, why do we sometimes feel bad when we crave alone time from our partner?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

About a year ago, many of us were unexpectedly forced into 24\/7 shared WFH and living spaces with our partners. Maybe the togetherness was welcome at first, but the novelty probably soon wore off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWe, women especially, grow up on a steady diet of romanticized ideas that to be in love is to crave being together,\u201d says Dr. Alexandra Solomon, licensed clinical psychologist, relationship expert and author of \u201cTaking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality & Create the Relationships You Want.\u201d \u201cAs you transition from falling in love to sustaining and maintaining, there can be confusion as to why you don\u2019t crave that around-the-clock time together anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, do you need to have the \u201cI need me time\u201d conversation?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you recharge by being alone and your partner recharges through \u201cwe\u201d time, word choice is key. Words like \u201cspace\u201d or \u201calone\u201d might trigger feelings of abandonment, or thoughts that you don\u2019t want to be in the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe chance that both want separateness at the same moment are slim to none,\u201d Dr. Solomon says. \u201cNavigating that can start with full honesty, such as, \u2018Sometimes you want space and I want to be with you. What\u2019s that like for you?\u2019\u201d She also recommends bringing the alone time request back to your relationship: \u201cMy ability to think my own thoughts and pursue my own interests lives in the space that I can be alone and know that I\u2019m still loved by you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, those 6 easy (and maybe sneaky?) ways to get time for yourself\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

#1: \u201cI love sitting in my car in the Starbucks parking lot\u2014I call it Subaru selfcare,\u201d Solomon says. Parking lots are your solitary havens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#2: Sleeping apart. Try giving up the bed for one night to your partner\u2014an especially rational option if one of you needs to wake up earlier than the other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#3: Offer to run your partner\u2019s errands by yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#4: If your solo hobby somehow morphed into a shared hobby (like cooking dinner, gardening or working out), try taking that hobby back for yourself 1-2 days per week.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#5: Read in the bedroom, while your partner watches TV in the living room (or vice versa).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#6: Create space for alone time together. Sit in the same room: One person can watch a movie on their phone or laptop with earplugs, and the other can finish up a little work.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Firstly, why do we sometimes feel bad when we crave alone time from our partner? About a year ago, many of us were unexpectedly forced into 24\/7 shared WFH and living spaces with our partners. Maybe the togetherness was welcome at first, but the novelty probably soon wore off. \u201cWe, women especially, grow up on […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":406,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-388","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mind"],"metadata":{"_edit_lock":["1623359275:14"],"_thumbnail_id":["406"],"_edit_last":["14"],"primary_category":["2"],"_primary_category":["field_608c33bdd26d5"],"show_featured_image":["1"],"_show_featured_image":["field_609ee1cf1ce13"],"post_views_count":["1936"],"_wp_old_slug":["riana-borelli","jajajajaja"],"adobe_analytics_repeatable":["a:1:{i:0;a:2:{s:4:\"name\";s:0:\"\";s:5:\"value\";s:0:\"\";}}"],"_wp_old_date":["2021-06-01"],"_yoast_wpseo_content_score":["60"],"_yoast_wpseo_estimated-reading-time-minutes":["2"]},"aioseo_notices":[],"acf":{"primary_category":{"term_id":2,"name":"Mind","slug":"mind","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":2,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":0,"count":76,"filter":"raw"},"show_featured_image":true},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/posts\/388","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=388"}],"version-history":[{"count":23,"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/posts\/388\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":575,"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/posts\/388\/revisions\/575"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/media\/406"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=388"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=388"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellconnected.murad.com\/api\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=388"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}